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The Age of Braggarts

Has posting updates online of our dinners out, our work promotions, our vacations turned us into a nation of braggarts?

Catherine Devine, 22, reads instant messages on her laptop screen at her home in Kings Park, N.Y., Monday, Sept. 26, 2011. (AP) Composite with Facebook comments. (Dean Russell/WBUR)

Catherine Devine, 22, reads instant messages on her laptop screen at her home in Kings Park, N.Y., Monday, Sept. 26, 2011. (AP) Composite with Facebook comments. (Dean Russell/WBUR)

Check out Facebook or Twitter, and you’re likely to hear from a lot of friends. About their kids, their big night out, their promotion, their vacation. Is that bragging?

For a whole lot of people it may just seem like life as we now know it. We share. Online. Social media. Telling all – or at least a lot of stuff that, subtly or not-so-subtly, makes us look pretty good. Or at least, we hope, as good as everybody else.

My guest today says “hang on, we’re becoming braggarts.” This hour, On Point: how great, how fine, how sweet, how cool our lives are, as told online. The charge of “braggart nation.”

- Tom Ashbrook

Guests

Elizabeth Bernstein, columnist for The Wall Street Journal. Her latest piece is headlined: “Are We All Braggarts Now? Boasting Epidemic Goes Viral; Crowing Boosts Self Esteem but It’s Annoying.”

David Gerzof Richard, professor of media relations, social media and marketing and founder and president of BIGfish, an integrated social media, PR, marketing and social influence firm.

Keith Wilcox, professor of marketing at Columbia Business School.

From Tom’s Reading List:

Wall Street Journal “Friends, family and co-workers: I think you’re fabulous—just not quite as fabulous as you think you are. Consider your Facebook status updates.”

Huffington Post “Next time you post a status update about what you had for breakfast, keep in mind that some of your friends will be less than pleased.”

ModernMom “A while ago, my friend Louise relayed that she was horrified to learn that a woman she knows ‘unfriends’ people on Facebook who brag about their kids a lot.”

Playlist

“Let Me Twitter Dat” by Andy Milonakis

“Give Me All Your Luvin’ ” by Madonna (feat. M.I.A. and Nicki Minaj)

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  • sweetman

    Great topic! I loved Ms. Bernstein’s article, spot-on for slogging through the social media, groaning and rolling my eyes! Why are we so narcissistic? It’s fascinating if you can get through how wonderful, superior, snarky and fortunate your friends are.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/M2ZQZCYV34N6SWNX5C2VPYBMBY Ally

    Americans turning into braggarts?….. never

    Story of the American farmer touring India. Asked about his farm, he tells his host, “Well, I can get on my horse in the morning and ride till lunch, and I won’t have reached the front gate”
    The Indian nods sadly and replies,”Yes, I had a horse like that once, so I sold it and now my wife pulls the plough”

  • superfinehelios

    FB has helped me realize some of my friends are great listeners. While others are constantly waiting for a moment to jump in and talk about themselves. There are lots of “I’s” in their sentences…and not enough “you’s” in their questions. 

  • LinRP

    There always seems to be an undercurrent of judgement about someone bragging when they post GOOD news on social media. The topic of this show promotes that it’s more acceptable in the minds of others to post “I lost my job,” “my kids are horrible,” rather than “I got a big promotion” or “my kid just got into Yale.”

    Come on, lighten up. Share the good news open and willingly. If people see it as bragging, that’s THEIR problem. Some of us like to share the energy and in the joy of the good news of others. It’s a good feeling.

    And so what if someone posts what they had for breakfast? It’s PB for heaven’s sake. Who cares? What harm does it do? Don’t like it? Don’t read it.

     

  • ToyYoda

    I’m surprised that we are just talking about this now.  I hate to *brag*, but I spotted this the first time I got onto myspace nearly a decade ago.  From reading posts on this site and others, many readers perceived the same thing a long time ago.
    It’s not hard to see how bragging begins.  Another term is pen!s waving.  It starts of innocently enough.  We post what we think are the interesting parts of our lives, not the boring parts.  And so viewers get a highlight reel of our activity.  Then, through the mere fact of reading our captions the mind naturally turns our descriptions into Platonic ideals; in the same manner that movie trailers are often always better than the movie.  This leads to a much greater exaggeration of our lives in the theater of the mind of the viewer, without even bragging!Now since no one realizes this fact, they respond with their own highlight reel, but now intentionally exaggerating their highlight reel.  And that exaggeration goes through the same process of magnification of the mind.  Bragging and jealous are just natural outgrowths.  Simple enough.The real question is why the writer just noticed this now, when it’s been going on since the beginning of the social media, more than 10 years ago.  And if you were into internet multiplayer games (1970′s), much much longer than that.  History likes to give credit to people who first coined a phrase, or made an observation of human nature, or spotted some trend, but in reality, history doesn’t seem to give it to the first person, but to the person who wrote about it first, or who popoularized something.  Take the Gladwell Hours, named after Malcolm Gladwell in his book ‘Outliers’.  It’s about the 10,000 hours needed to become an expert at something.  This is a rule that I knew about 20 years before the book was written.  Now it’s called the Gladwell Hours.Here, in this case, Bernstein, and the list of academics (and on point), have been late for more than a decade.  But we will give her credit, because that’s how the game of history goes.

    • jefe68

      Internet multiplayer games (1970′s)? There was no such thing in the 1970′s. I think you mean the 1990′s and late 90′s at that.

      • ToyYoda

        I mean 70′s as incredible as that may seem.

        MUDs or MUDDs (Multi-User Dungeons and Dragons), as they were called.  First version came out in 1978.  They were text based games.  In the 80′s there were more of these like AberMUD, and dikuMUD.  Some of them had hundreds of players on at any one time.

        Later in the 80′s one of the first multiplayer graphics games emerged called netrek.  I played Netrek in my college years in the mid to late 90′s.  It’s still the best multiplayer *action* game to date.  

        The graphics are awful by today’s standards, but it’s still the best for *interaction* action.  It has a steep learning curve and the culture of players are bunch of a-holes.  Two things you need to overcome.  And also the reason it can’t gain many players.

        But, most people think of internet games when the internet became popular to the ‘masses’.  In reality internet multiplayer games existed long before… about 20 years before the invention of the World Wide Web.  

        Try one just for kicks, I mean like spend a month on a few, just to really get a feel for what it was like.  They are still around.  I don’t play it anymore.  But I encourage  the ‘young guns’ to take a trip down memory lane and see where games -internet games- originated.

        In many ways, MUDs were a more intimate game than what we have now.

        Fascinating history of the internet, I think most of it will sadly be lost in geek lore.

  • http://www.facebook.com/leonard.bast.90 Leonard Bast

    What strikes me is not so much the constant online bragging but, rather, the depressing fact that the braggarts seem to have so little of substance to brag about. What social media has shown me is how dull we all are, endlessly narrating the details of our middling lives. This depressing truth used to be hidden, but not anymore, and the sad thing is that many people seem not to understand that it was hidden for a reason: most people don’t really have much to brag about . . . which makes their bragging all the more painful. Benvenuto Cellini’s bragging I can take. Cousin Marge’s I would prefer to skip. Thoreau wrote that most people lead lives of quiet desperation. Now they lead lives of noisy desperation. Not an improvement.

  • Vandermeer

    hmmm… there must be more important topics to discuss.
     

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003176132796 Joe Makela

    the “entitled” generation and then some. Where’s the humility? discretion? I cannot relate AT ALL.
     What or who is patient X (origins) of this issue?
    This is the most on-line posting I do.
    Thanks Tom – friend?

  • J__o__h__n

    I pride myself on never posting updates on what I had for lunch. 

    • sickofthechit

       What about dinner?

      • J__o__h__n

        Well, I am having lobster tonight (less of a brag as it is on sale). 

    • Ray in VT

      I just use it to tell my friends what they already know.  Specifically how awesome I am and how lucky they are to know me.

      • jefe68

        You too!

  • stillin

    I can’t into fb. The people I know who post are some of the most boring people on earth…when you read their posts you would think they were living these ultra exciting lives. It’s false to me. Also, I seriously don’t care about seeing pictures of this is where we ate, this is my granddaughter, this is this is this is…when I think of the time requires to post that stuff, I can’t understand that at all. I also find it weird, that these friends of mine, old friends, would rather FB than get together, it’s the voice I like,not typing.

  • Kyle Holmes

    We have to point out everything good we do every day at work, or at least during review time.  From what I can see this is the logical extension of that skill we have learned in the office.

  • Markus6

    Interesting question – “what is bragging?”  It’s not a simple answer. My brother’s daily picture of his kids is annoying and not just because they’re betting looking than mine. However, a formerly overweight friend finishing a triathlon was fun to hear. I love hearing from friends an family in such an easy way, but there are always a few sending tedious status updates.

    We probably need to hear more from the Dear Abby’s of this generation as these seem to be questions of etiquette.

  • Mouse_2012

    I know so many people that do this I find it quite ignoring since most the stuff people post on facebook is narcissistic and i don’t really care if someone is eating dinner or they are about to leave. But it’s getting even worst because Facebook as created(that most of it’s users are unaware of) in which users can now track the location of their friends or other Facebook App users.

    http://articles.cnn.com/2012-06-25/tech/tech_social-media_facebook-find-friends-nearby_1_mobile-apps-facebook-users-new-feature?_s=PM:TECH

    Scary

    http://www.readwriteweb.com/archives/how-to-use-facebooks-newest-stalking-app.php

    http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/facebook-stalker-app-friendshake-mark-zuckerberg-341532

    http://www.ktla.com/news/landing/ktla-facebook-stalker-app,0,3829030.story

    Sure some of “braggarts” would love the above

    • sickofthechit

       I would suggest they hold off commenting until they get home.  Otherwise they are liable to return home to a break-in assisted by their here and now location info posts….

  • NrthOfTheBorder

    Given the super-charged hype we’re surrounded with it’s no wonder many feel they have to ‘market’ themselves ad-nauseam. It’s boorishness forced to a level of social acceptability – the more some insist, the more that others feel they have to chime in to keep their head above water. 

    Don’t know about the rest of you, but I find myself stopping just short of coming down hard on this with: “Oh PLEASE! Give me a freak’in break will you? Get real!”.

  • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

    Boasting was seen as virtuous behavior in Norse culture, so long as the person was able to back up the boasts with action.  The problem with on-line culture is that there are no consequences.  That makes much of it inconsequential.

  • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

    I don’t care if people brag on-line.  I do wish that they’d stop being boring.

  • AC

    that’s stupid. i’m always happy when friends are happy or excited….
    what terrible friends you have

  • Rex Henry

    NO MORE BABY PICTURES

    • Mike_Card

      …or dogs.

    • Rex Henry

      I got mentioned on air. I’m telling everyone on facebook.

      • DrewInGeorgia

        lol

    • jefe68

      …or pets.

  • Steven Lefebvre

    It’s incredible how defensive people get when you start to talk about this topic…

  • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

    Organic eggs that my husband raised?  That reminds me of the verse in “Making the Best of a Bad Situation” about the husband who thinks that he’s a chicken.

  • Ray in VT

    A lot of the comments on social media about what one is eating, or things of similar nature, can be quite annoying, and I don’t see why people share that sort of thing.  As to the more idealized statements that people make, here is a counter to that.  Who (generally) wants to hear how crappy someone’s day was?  Who here has at least one of those friends who is always bringing things down.  A lot of people don’t want to listen to constant complainers.

  • JGC

    This is just like those annoying Christmas letters we get from long ago acquaitances updating us on the past year of fabulous vacations taken, their marvelous children’s milestones, etc.  Now Christmas comes every day of the year.

  • fairfax28

    We’ve taken to calling Facebook “Rub it in your facebook”.  I’ve had to hide almost all my ‘friends’ since I can’t stand it anymore.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_Y6CO5C2HE4WM2OYGCDVWGPRXXM oldman

    What I find annoying is how people complain, complain, complain about what others post in facebook when they are the ones who choose to read it, and they have all the hooks there to tailor or remove whatever they don’t want to read.

    But they’d rather complain.

  • ToyYoda

    You just don’t know how to handle facebook.  When I browse through face book, I usually do it in my jacuzzi while I sip martini’s and look at web pages on my 72″ hi def tv.   I’d love to talk more about the details, but I need to hop into my Maserati for a meeting with my masseuse!  ta ta!!!

    • Mike_Card

      You, too?

  • http://singingstring.org/ asongbird

    Two points:
    1) Facebook, LinkedIn, anything on line is PUBLISHING, and therefore anything you put there should be thought of as that. If it shouldn’t be done or said in public in person, don’t do it online.

    2) Narcissism is endemic now since “everyone” is called “creative.” No longer do you actually have to ACHIEVE something to think people should care about what you think.

    So you’re simply seeing the results of a society addicted to staring at their own images and thinking their words, thoughts, and doings are “newsworthy.”

    Even my posting here is ridiculous, when you think about it. Duh.

  • Yar

    Remember the words from Richard Cory.
    The papers print his picture almost everywhere he goes: Richard Cory at the opera, Richard Cory at a show. And the rumor of his parties and the orgies on his yacht! Oh, he surely must be happy with everything he’s got. 

    He freely gave to charity, he had the common touch, And they were grateful for his patronage and thanked him very much,So my mind was filled with wonder when the evening headlines read: “Richard Cory went home last night and put a bullet through his head.” 

    • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

       That’s a new version of the poem.

      • Yar

        From the song By Simon and Garfunkel

        They say that Richard Cory owns one half of this whole town, 
        With political connections to spread his wealth around. 
        Born into society, a banker’s only child, 
        He had everything a man could want: power, grace, and style. 

        But I work in his factory 
        And I curse the life I’m living 
        And I curse my poverty 
        And I wish that I could be, 
        Oh, I wish that I could be, 
        Oh, I wish that I could be 
        Richard Cory. 
        [ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/s/simon+and+garfunkel/richard+cory_20124655.html
        The papers print his picture almost everywhere he goes: 
        Richard Cory at the opera, Richard Cory at a show. 
        And the rumor of his parties and the orgies on his yacht! 
        Oh, he surely must be happy with everything he’s got. 

        But I work in his factory 
        And I curse the life I’m living 
        And I curse my poverty 
        And I wish that I could be, 
        Oh, I wish that I could be, 
        Oh, I wish that I could be 
        Richard Cory. 

        He freely gave to charity, he had the common touch, 
        And they were grateful for his patronage and thanked him very much,
        So my mind was filled with wonder when the evening headlines read: 
        “Richard Cory went home last night and put a bullet through his head.” 

        But I work in his factory 
        And I curse the life I’m living 
        And I curse my poverty 
        And I wish that I could be, 
        Oh, I wish that I could be, 
        Oh, I wish that I could be 
        Richard Cory. 

        • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

           Based on the 1897 poem by Edwin Arlington Robinson.

  • DrewInGeorgia

    Pride is a problem. Seems like your guest’s frustration would be better directed at Envy than at Prideful Boasting though.

    Don’t like reading people rubbing it in your face? Stop Reading their posts. Don’t like hearing something someone is pridefully boasting about? Stop Listening to them. Problem Solved.

    • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

       Since when is pride a problem?  Pride is a virtue.

      • DrewInGeorgia

        If you say so. Most organized religions preach that it is a Sin or an Affront.

        Honesty is a Virtue.

        • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

           The ancient Greeks and the Norse people viewed pride as a virtue.  Those were cultures that valued the individual.  The organized religions that you name see the individual as unworthy.

          • Ray in VT

            I think that it depends whether or not pride is good or bad, just like most other things in life.

            I think that it is good to take pride in one’s work or in one’s accomplishments, at least as long as one has reason.

            If one is proud of pretty insignificant things, then it’s probably not such a good thing, although it may not necessarily a bad thing.

            Pride, though, can lead to arrogance and a sense of superiority.  I suppose that those aren’t necessarily negatives all of the time, though, because what if it’s justified?  It’s not prideful or arrogant to toot your own horn if you really are that good.

          • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

             Just so–boasting without being able to back it up falls flat.

          • Michele

             Aristotle viewed pride as a virtue.  In most of the writings of the ancient Greeks pride and hubris are synonymous and not virtuous.

          • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

             Aristotle was clarifying the view that his culture held regarding the golden mean.  Arrogance was an excess; modesty was a defect, and pride was moderate.  Hubris was stepping out of place–specifically, taking on honors or roles that belonged to the gods.

  • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

     I look at Facebook and other such postings and feel sorry for the meaningless lives that many live.

  • adks12020

    People do brag on social networks and it is annoying.  I don’t think it’s all as positive as the guests are talking about. There are a lot of people that seek out sympathy via facebook posts.  I find a person airing all their troubles and seeking reassurance is even more annoying than bragging…….that and those stupid kissy face pictures so many young women think are attractive (they are not).

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=703793897 Scott Hughes

    I love my FB friends’ comments, good and not so good; it’s a mix of both.  When my friends are enjoying their weekend at the lake, feel grateful for their family, or other positives, I feel glad for them, and don’t view it as bragging.  At least as often, I see friends having problems with a project, grief from losses, a date gone bad, and other vagaries of everyday life.  It’s not bragging; it’s their life unfolding day by day.

    • stillin

       Who would be interested in day by day stuff? someone without a life.

  • Ellen Dibble

    I’m just tuning in to this show.  Perhaps the first people get to a gathering, they show off their selves, strut their stuff, but that’s just how-do-you-do.  I’m interested in what comes next.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=511715633 Cyndy Storm

    Oh,  just don’t do Facebook if you believe that your friends are bragging.   One of my friends spent 3 weeks in the Caribbean while at a conference of NGO’s.   Was I jealous?  Oh yes.  Did I read every post and enjoy reading them? Certainly.  I like to follow the fabulous things my friends are doing as many live out of state and I don’t get to see them very often.

  • http://www.facebook.com/john.m.cogswell John M Cogswell Jr

    Hey don’t knock the bragging!  With two very young children and two jobs I find FB the only way for me to keep tabs on my friends :(

  • ml77

    The bragging bothers me far less than the opposite – what I call the Pity Me posts. I have to block people who complain about everything every day – I have a headache, I hate my job, etc. Bragging can be annoying but it affects me far less than the constant negativity

    • Mike_Card

      I had to Unfriend a niece who was just too much of a drama queen.  She lives several states away, and I don’t miss here at all; not her or her whining, nor her homely kids, nor her goof-ball husband.

  • MacMillin

    Imagine if deactivating your account became the next ultimate bragging right, I did in May and the stock has tanked. 

    • jefe68

      That was your fault?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_Y6CO5C2HE4WM2OYGCDVWGPRXXM oldman

    The bragging is better than those that document running from one minor crisis to the next.

  • Yar

    After listening to your show last week on art forgery.  I thought about degrees on the wall.
    Wouldn’t be cool to have a “master’s of forgery” printed and framed for your wall.

    • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

       You can have one.  Just print it up yourself.

      • Yar

        From the University of Deception.

  • John Drinane

    What about the flip side? Honestly when people post things about how they got a flat tire, burnt the roast or stubbed their toe it comes off as whining… Lets face it socialmedia just facilitates over sharing in all aspects.

  • Ellen Dibble

    Consider the Facebook person who posts about her financial and physical collapse, posting will anybody help me, will anybody help me.  Eventually she went anonymous and unfriended herself from everybody, fed up with all of us.

  • JGC

    Dan Ariely, the expert on lying that was recently here at On Point, says that “our growing reliance on electronic forms of communication heralds an increasingly dishonest future” (from an article in The National Post, Canada).  

    “The more communicating we do online, instead of face-to-face, the more our crimes seem victimless, and all our research shows that these are the crimes we are happiest to commit, because we have no sense of hurting anyone,” says Ariely.

    Maybe he was speaking about this in the context of things like illegal downloading of film,books, and music, etc. and other forms of stealing intellectual property, but maybe this is also part of the disconnect between what is happening in real life and what is being promoted in facebook life. 

  • Mark Rowe

    I am not on facebook

    • Yar

      Now you are bragging.

  • AC

    i feel very clueless about this as a complaint. i have more of an issue on people who are crude/aggressive or serial political posters…..
    i’m more embarrassed by angry rants and swearing

  • Steven Lefebvre

    what about the relational aspect of this whole thing… do we ever consider if our postings encourage other’s loneliness or isolationism?

  • ying13

    Self promotion & yes bragging.
    Good sign without hurting other people.

    Due to selfish DNA!

  • Mary Starks

    You obviously have a very different set of friends than mine, who seem to use FB to post snarky commentary about their world, political opinion, links to cool stuff, announcements about community stuff they’re doing, and real, actual news about their lives. Perhaps you need a new set of friends?

  • Mark Rowe

    i’ve heard enough about everybody else.

  • http://twitter.com/en_b ian berry

    It’s the trouble you get from unfollowing the “posty” friend or family member that’s the most irritating.

  • Ellen Dibble

    If someone has 350 friends, which seems to me an average, how does one deal with the newsfeed?  It boggles the mind.  Right off, I learned that private messages get lost.  Apparently people get so many messages that they can’t handle it.

  • Hína Kemenduro

    I know that I dropped off FB because I felt a pressure to turn my life into an entertaining narrative—tragic, comic, or whatever.  My life is not a narrative.  Neither is yours.  Human lives are much more complicated than a novel.

  • Steven Lefebvre

    all of instagram has broken down to five “Humble Brags”: #baby #food #pet #sunset #vacation

  • Liza Alwes

    Totally agree.  After a miscarriage nothing made me more miserable than posts about others’ successful ongoing pregnancies and beautiful little babies.  I had to start ignoring even a family member because the last thing I wanted to see was her ultrasound pictures.

  • Tara Aaron

    This is the first time I’ve ever listened to an OnPoint interview and thought “what the heck are they talking about?”  This is simply not my experience.  My women friends and I still have to actively encourage each other to promote ourselves and say good things about our own accomplishments.  Our reluctance to self-promote as women hasn’t changed because of social media. 

  • Steven Lefebvre

    the other day i told my friends in person i did 100 pushups, the awkward tension i felt in the room would have been lost in the social networks… 

  • Jenny Howard

    Pro(fessional) Hipster Families:  Check out this mesmerizing blog of a real-life sponsored family – constant updating sprinkled with product placement:  http://bleubirdvintage.typepad.com/blog/ 

  • anoninboston

    This is ridiculous!  Who doesn’t want to see their friends and family being happy and healthy, enjoying their lives and jobs?  To perceive good news as “bragging” speaks more about the insecurity of the person describing it that way than it does to the so-called “bragging” of the Facebook poster.

    • stillin

       I see it as begging for attention, from adults. You want to hang out, let’s get together, but the fbfbfb thing is a sickness in my book.

      • anoninboston

        Unfortunately, that is hard to do with my friends that live in Jedda, Paris, Cairo, San Francisco, Austin, Washington DC, and, sadly, even in NYC because I don’t have the money for all that travel, we all have very busy lives.  I LOVE seeing what they are up to, though.

        • stillin

           
          Oh I see you end, yes it would work for you, for me, these people
          are my friends, neighbors, we are all within 30 min of each other and
          they all want to FB which makes no sense to me. I too have friends in
          diff. countries and read their posts to see what they’re up at times,
          but it’s not the same as person to person contact, voice, human to human
          which is the world I operate in. I see your point though!

          • anoninboston

            I understand where you are coming from too!

          • stillin

            wow that’s cool, a real understanding that we came to, for me that’s pretty unheard of hahaha Subject: [on-point] Re: The Age of Braggarts

  • nikki hamburger

    I really don’t feel like people are out to brag on facebook (at least I don’t feel like it’s that way with my friends).  I feel like it is a way for communication and keeping up with friends and family over long distances.  I mostly use it for that but maybe I just don’t have the friends that are braggers.

  • Ellen Dibble

    I spend my time at Facebook trying to figure out the algorithm Facebook uses (it seems to change), and I have few enough friends that this is meaningful.  Having friended a Polish computer technician/musician/dog frisbee person, and having commented on some of his posts, I now seem to have curious people out of that part of the world — Hungary, Russia, notably. Bing translates Polish.  But it doesn’t translate Urdu, and I’ve taken on some of India/Pakistan, and though they use English, they also use Urdu.  Bing doesn’t do Urdu.  It does Arabic.  I actually don’t waste my time on actual friends; I go for soulmates around the world.  I mean, I’ll fish for the Taliban if they’re interested.

    • http://gregorycamp.wordpress.com/ Greg Camp

       The NSA now has a file on you.  ;)

  • Steven Lefebvre

    last thing:  what about the rest of the world and how they see us… after a trip i took to haiti i became facebook friends with some of them, since then, i haven’t felt right about bragging on the internet… it just feels cruel!  We have to remember that our postings are very public on the WORLD WIDE web!

    “They don’t have roads in Bosnia but they have Facebook?!?”
    -From the Social Network

  • Mike_Card

    Whatever it is about Facebook that happens to be annoying is even worse on Twitter.  Tweets are the most inane, banal pieces of wasted bytes.  The worst are people who think tweets belong on Facebook.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_NUQ4XMTZ32OAXZSJHIWPBOOJ2I GH

    This has been the trend in internet communication.   I’ve noticed over the years that conversations on the internet have become increasing shallow and one sided.  When I started, in the stone age,  we used bulletin board system or “forums”, people had conversations in which they had room to write paragraph upon paragraph (if they wanted to) on any subject they wanted and other people responded with thoughtful, detailed posts.  Some of the threads went on for months.  Then came blogs and users lost the ability to chose the topic and could only talk about what the blogger wanted to discuss. Now it’s even more simplified (and restricted) on face book and twitter.. No one has long, detailed conversations on these.  “The Wall” is and apt metaphor because  it’s more like digital graffiti than conversation.

  • Ellen Dibble

    On Facebook, I ask, who’s listening, and I don’t think family people can do this.  I think they have to be private, not post things.  I don’t have to care about that, so I let it all hang out.  Who is listening, and when, and for how long — post a status, and wait a few hours, and see what happens.  Consider who might be interested.  Ever since one particular OnPoint hour, I’ve had most of the senators out of Nigeria on my page, Senator A, Senator B, all the way to Z.  You’d think some algorithm would cough up John Kerry.  Nope.  There was one afternoon when he was all over John, or just Jo, or Kerry, and I guess his staff found me.  But mostly Rand Paul comes up, senator-wise, and did from day one.  It’s very interesting.

  • turtledoggy

    My perspective on the over-sharing is less sinister: Connections on FB are called “friends”.   Like a child in 3rd grade, shoulder-to-shoulder with their BFF, people want to share everything and gain approval, support and feel linked to others.

  • BHA_in_Vermont

    I’m so awesome that I don’t need to brag to everyone. My awesomeness is obvious to the world even without social media presence. Even to people who have no idea I exist!  :)

    I REALLY have no use for Facebook and the like. I have WAY too much to do to sit around seeing what other people are doing with their amazing lives.
     

    • Renee Hollier

       THIS!

  • http://www.facebook.com/ahlynka Adrian Hlynka

    Hi,
    This is America! We are constantly bombarded by commercial messages on every kind of mass media. Promotional messages are the norm, whether it is self or a product.

  • Steven Lefebvre

    why is it when you mention the culture of bragging on social networking do people make a case for how great social networking is… as if there isn’t any other way to do social networking other than bragging

  • billlattanzi

    I’m reminded of Josh Logan’s comment about Hollywood, that seems to apply to Facebook — ‘it’s all about sincerity… once you learn to fake that, you’re on your way.’

  • AC

    i brag more on linkedin, where it matters
    lol

    • Mike_Card

      You are more likely to have your identity stolen from LinkedIn.  Reid Hoffman thinks personal privacy is only a pooh-pooh for old people.  Hint:  check his own LinkedIn profile.

  • MacMillin

    The next marketplace will be celebrities having you pay for their secret tweets, I just spent $5 to find out where an artist is going to be playing, or what crap artist won Americas Worst Talent for a dollar so you can brag before everyone else.

    Maybe the answer to the profit model for social media is to limit your information unless your “followers” pay a price tag to know. Sounds like journalism, lol.

  • AuntBobbie

    It’s social media!  If you don’t like what’s being posted, don’t read it! Its that simple!

    • stillin

       FB is truly simple.

  • turtledoggy

    it sounds like Elizabeth needs to have a face to face with a certain someone in her personal life.  the broad judgement of all FB-ers is a bit much.

  • Ellen Dibble

    Come on, at its best, it’s poetry, it’s a chorus of poetry, with people evolving better ways of seeing things, and seeing each other, and their/our possibilities.

  • DrewInGeorgia

    People who are genuinely proud of their accomplishments don’t spend their time pridefully boasting about them.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_NUQ4XMTZ32OAXZSJHIWPBOOJ2I GH

    I’ve refreshed this page 10 times already and no one had “liked” my post!  I feel so  uncool.

  • http://twitter.com/Sharoney Sharoney

    You haven’t covered the most aggravating phenomenon of all… “humblebragging.” That’s when posts wrap bragging in fake humility of the most transparent kind:

    “I just want to say that I am so grateful to all the wonderful friends I have who have loved and supported me unconditionally whenever I’m down and celebrate the good times with me. I am just SO BLESSED.”

    The implication being that 

    1) those friends/family members who sometimes give me a needed reality check aren’t really friends, and 

    2) your friends are totally defined by how they treat ME.

    I have actually unfriended people who indulge in this kind of narcissism, because it drives me up a wall.

    • stillin

       Absolutely…I am just so so so so grateful for every little thing…everything, the air I breathe, my wonderful family, friends, parish, town, school, community, live relatives , dead relatives, you my most cherished FB friend….you know.

  • Ellen Dibble

    I assume people learn to do what I do, visit my friends’ pages when I’m interested in getting updates.  Keep the Newsfeed for maybe recently friended people.  If you’re not friends, you probably can’t read their page.  If they want to reach you one to one, they message you.

  • CharlesWatertown

    I really like Facebook for the games – a bit addicted to Scrabble and Words with Friends.  Also love seeing what people have to say about their lives – I almost never contribute – so I guess I am an online VOYEUR.

  • http://www.facebook.com/alisonmhodge Alison Hodge

    This subject is so annoying, and honestly, completely redundant. The whole point is that you have the ‘friends’ that you choose, and you can edit your friends list any time you want. If you’re not happy for people, or you find their tone annoying, don’t have them on your list for goodness sake! and to say that the friends that annoy you online, seem to be the ones that annoy you off line, then you’ve only got yourself to blame. 

    I have a great group of friends, and I love to see what they’re up to. When I post pictures of my kids, and my friends comment about how beautiful, I’ve pointed out that I typically pick the best pictures of them. Why would anyone do otherwise?

    • stillin

       Those are exactly the kinds of posts that turn my stomach. My kids are great but I don’t feel obligated to publish it. When my friends and I get together we don’t talk about the things they post on FB. The grossest “kids” post I have read is my neighbors who posted ” my darling children” they are adults now. It’s just too weird, too gross, too petty…I am glad not to do FB anymore. In real, and seriously, leave all the family chit behind, what are YOU doing is what we get together for…

      • http://www.facebook.com/alisonmhodge Alison Hodge

        That’s my point though. We have different interests, so we probably wouldn’t be facebook friends.

      • LinRP

        “My darling children” was likely tongue-in-cheek. Lighten up. People still do love their adult children and enjoy posting pix of them. It’s hardly worth you getting all ired up about it. If that’s the grossest thing you’ve faced in a while, I’d be counting my blessings instead.

    • LinRP

      I’m with you, Alison. That’s how FB strikes me. It’s a touchstone with others. Nothing more, nothing less. Don’t want to hear from someone, take them off your list. Really, no reason for everyone to have their knickers in a twist over kid and pet pix. It’s just parts of everyday life. Sheesh.

  • jefe68

    I’m looking at the sky and it’s nice.
    I’m having a cheese, lettuce and tomato sandwich with mustard for lunch. Me, me, and more me…  some more about me doing some stuff. Later it will be more about me doing more things, but at night.

    • DrewInGeorgia

      On Point.

      We’re a Nation Of MEists.

      Amen.

    • AC

      what did you learn while doing this? I would find it interesting if you gave a reason..

      • jefe68

        Sorry, I was not being serious. I think this whole phenomena is kind narcissistic and funny.
        But that’s just me…

  • Dr_Pretorius

    Great show!  Appreciate the exploration of how to balance using social media for marketing oneself with being honest and real.

  • AC

    ok then, so what IS allowed on FB for posts? i am not understanding what people are complaining about??

  • Dr_Pretorius

    Great show!  Appreciate the exploration of how we balance our needs to manage our social media accounts for marketing purposes with our needs for honesty and genuineness.

  • richard_sauve

    Though I made it through on the phone line, unfortunately time on the show ran out and I was unable to share a point I feel is important. 

    This issue is not so much I believe about the medium itself, as it is the culture of celebrities we are embedded in—social media allows for any individual, through popularity or viral video, to become instantly as famous as their favorite movie stars. OK, so why is that so wrong or dangerous? Not because there’s something wrong with a nobody becoming a somebody; it is dangerous because the cult of the celebrity ignores the amazing possible benefits of communication with individuals around the globe, and instead focuses on and bolsters self-satisfying, self-aggrandizing, ego wrapped behaviour. 

    The last thing this nation needs is for everyone to think they’re a little celebrity. On the contrary, what we need is more people focused on the community at large, education, and solving the world’s problems. With the tools so prolifically developed for the purposes of social play, we could have things like: secure digital voting on everything from local elections to national referendums (and delete the electoral college forever), we could be learning cultures, languages and foods of cultures across the globe, we can share medical and scientific discoveries with every citizen of the world.

    In other words, it is never the technology that is evil, selfish, or driven to decisions based on ego; that’s or big messy culture that needs to change. If facebook and twitter weren’t mostly filled with monotonous drivel about daily activities, successes and failures, folks wouldn’t be on it all the time, and advertisers who sell you useless items would make less money. 

    This is about advocating and pushing the culture of the every-celebrity, and yet these new celebrities have no more social training and education as to the responsibilities associated with being a public face any more than do the thousands of boxed-wine millionaires living in their Mcmansions.

    What we need, as we progress towards our future, is a new movement of people that care about their community as much as they do themselves again. It starts with all of us.

    Richard Sauvé
    S. Boston, MA

  • SamEw

    Honestly the thing I hate the most about online communication isn’t updates about people eating breakfast but those who feel they have nothing original or interesting to say and simply give up and post other peoples pictures. 

    • hdesignr

      Agreed.

      “Look, here is a meme that someone else created and multiple friends have already posted. I have such a great sense of humor… don’t you think?!”

  • http://profiles.google.com/rickevans033050 Rick Evans

    The name  Facebook suggests vain narcissism

  • Sarah Trenschel

    I am a 28 year old who chooses not to partake in Faceboook. I genuinely do not care what people are doing 24/7. If I want to talk to someone or find out how they are, I will call them to have a conversation. I think Facebook has brought out the narcissism in a lot of people I know and it’s really a shame. When I try to spend time with my friends they are constantly on their phones updating or checking their Facebook page. Get off the phone and enjoy the real world!  

    • stillin

       I so agree, I am so glad I am not the only one who feels this way. So validating! I heard the artist from Savannah Georgia saying how it’s pretty much mandatory now, in the arts, to have your FB page and everything online. I just find it so disheartening as an artist myself. I love to show my work, but photo’s, online etc are not even that accurate. Some of it looks better than in real life, some worse. It just isn’t that good of a feel for the work. I think I am choosing to not be a part of the art world, which is probably the kiss of death for an artist! It’s not the reason I create, and I resent the pressure to post, upload, show work on computers. I don’t want to play. I am choosing an older way of life, to me a better one, that doesn’t revolve around screens.

      • jefe68

        FB is how artist are marketing themselves.
        I see this from the artist I know on FB who are doing this on a daily basis and it’s how they advertise their shows and so on. You are correct, not having a FB page to promote yourself can hurt your prospects.

  • hennorama

    Can’t comment directly on this topic, as I do not post on, read or otherwise consume social media (unless this qualifies as social media). I have much better ways of filling my day.

    Perhaps this is bragging?  If so, mea culpa.

  • matty park

    No one is forced to log onto Facebook and read their friends’ posts.  I would not enjoy reading a bunch of complaining or gossip.  If people can’t post positive things about themselves for fear of being labeled “braggart” what should they be posting on Facebook??

  • akio90

    I am a 56-year old who was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome at age 40+.  When I was in high school I was awkward, painfully shy (I was later diagnosed with social phobia) and I always regretted not being able to form meaningful friendships in high school. I realized, after my diagnosis, that I didn’t have the tools, which made me feel better.  I went to an international school in Tokyo and there were many amazing people there – proof being that as awkward as I was, no one made fun of me. My son, who also has Asperger’s, was not nearly as awkward as I was, and he was bullied, especially in middle school.  With Facebook, I feel like I’ve been given a second chance to form relationships with these amazing people from my high school, who I never really got to know back then.  If people are bragging, I don’t care – I’m usually happy for them.

  • Penny82

    I think the issue stems from what you hope to gain from using FB. If your goal  is to keep in touch with loved ones and friends who you don’t get to see very often, then it’s a good tool (although there are many other ways to do this -phone, e-mail, letters, family reunions – but FB helps streamline the process a bit.) But if you’re friending people who you only have a superficial relationship with in real-life, and FB is the foundation of your relationship with them, then I think you are setting yourself for some major aggravation. You are either going to grow to love these people or hate them, based solely on how they chose to curate their lives via social media. 

    I created an account because my place of business created one, and all the employees were encouraged to join as well.  So the bulk of my “friends” are my coworkers, and only a very few of my coworkers are people who I would call friends in real life.  So now I see posts by people I don’t really have any personal connection to, and I am gaining insight into their personal lives and outside of work personalities that I don’t really want to know about. Now I have a couple of people I work with who I used to have completely neutral feelings for, and now I actively dislike them.

    On the other hand, I often enjoy seeing updates by my real friends and family. Although I don’t feel I need FB for this, because they are people I communicate with in other ways, it can be fun to see their comments and sometimes try to make a clever reply. Sometimes their posts are annoying, but since they are people I already have chosen to have a real relationship with, I tend to just roll my eyes at whatever they say and move on.

    My biggest issue with FB is that we are handing over our personal data for no better reason than to help corporations target ads and sell us more of their crap. If FB offered us a truly useful benefit in exchange for our personal data then I might not feel so strongly about this, but I have yet to see how FB is really doing anything to make our lives any better.

    • cumulus14

      I agree very much with you; I have grown to hate (in some cases, it’s maybe not hate but just disgust as you said) people I once felt neutral about. In my case, they are not co-workers, as thankfully my company does not encourage Facebook in any respect, and I’ve deliberately avoided sharing intimate details of my life with colleagues. But these are family, new “friends” and acquaintances, and old, rediscovered (mostly) frenemies … whereas before, they would have remained just people I didn’t know very well (and didn’t care to), now I have to spend time and energy not only being irritated with them, but feeling guilty for judging and hating them. And yes, I’m aware of how narcissistic that is. Sigh. We’re all part of it if we choose to play on these sites.

  • Other Chris

    Is this episode not available for download? The topic is right up my alley!

  • Mouse_2012

    The new side scroll makes things even worst where now you see anyone of your friends commenting on someone else profile or comment.

  • http://www.facebook.com/patrick.kinnamon.35 Patrick Kinnamon

    I couldn’t agree with the comments more.  Our relationships are becoming increasingly numerous and superficial as it is.  Add to that a false representation of your life and self, and it doesn’t seem like we’re left with much of a “relationship/friendship” at all.  At this point, Facebook (in my view) is simply a way for companies to market their product, employers to stalk their job candidates, and all of us to brag.

  • Mouse_2012

    I think at first facebook made it more real for people to be themselves(much like myspace did once) than as more and more connected people begin to self censor or distort or twist themselves to fit a certain let’s say “profile” of the person on facebook this may explain the guest views of the Age of “Braggarts” with the ability to delete comments and edit ones this also helps with such group.

  • Michele

    I guess it’s like anything else – it’s all in how you use it.  Not everyone posts all the C-R-A-P that the panel is positing.  I don’t have one friend who would state that kind of stuff. I also don’t want to read the minutia of anyone’s life and would prefer just the high notes.  I do not want to know what anyone had for breakfast, blah, blah, blah….

  • Michele

    The more I listen to the show the more I think Ms. Bernstein insecurities are more at issue than anything else.  Why are you in competition over YOUR life with your friends? Just a thought…

  • Sam Zegas

    It’s worth noting that Facebook in particular has changed as a social space as it has become more popular. Facebook had several years of widespread popularity among teens and young adults (the Millennials, basically,) before it caught on with Gen X and the Boomers. I was a freshman in college when Facebook became popular on campus. For the first few years, when practically everyone I knew on Facebook was another college student within a few years of my age, the atmosphere there was very different; “bragging” posts were still around, but there was also a healthy mix of dark commentary, complaining, and young-adult angst. I can still remember discussions with my classmates at the time when older generations started coming on Facebook about how we were going to have to sensor the angst or suffer the judgment and concern of our elders. Maybe the world is better off with less teen angst – but Facebook has certainly changed, and that change has probably led it in a more toward the “all news is good news” trend.

  • lefteyeblind

    I thought this segment
    was ridiculous and that Ms. Bernstein’s points were more personal than based in
    reality.  I have a number of facebook
    friends and no one posts updates like what they had for breakfast.  I do see posts about exercise and cute kids,
    but they don’t make me feel any less because I haven’t exercised in four years
    since my first son was born.  I usually “like”
    those posts because I want to be encouraging and I happen to like pictures of
    kids.   My friends span all ages and are from around
    the world and without facebook; I would not have found people from my past that
    I care deeply about.  Anyone who reads
    their news feed and believes that facebook profiles are accurate and
    wholeisitic depictions of their friend’s lives is clearly nuts and doesn’t know
    their friends very well.   Post something positive and you’re a bragger, post
    something negative and you’re a “Debby” downer…. Does anyone really care? For
    me, a more interesting conversation would be about facebook privacy issues, how
    to manage friends list, co-worker and employer concerns, how to react when you
    see younger family members posting/doing questionable things, etc.

  • niseryan

    People who constantly post their thoughts on FB are really annoying, even if they aren’t bragging, e.g. “Tough day, but nothing that a glass of chardonnay can’t fix!” Who wants to read all that garbage? I wish this conversation would expand from just “bragging” comments to all the boring, trite comments most people write. People forget all social skills when posting. It’s terrible. I get depressed every time I log on. Shouldn’t there be social etiquette here, i.e. to at least try to be winning, charming, modest, interesting, and to know when to keep quiet? Everyone becomes a giant loudmouth. Ugh.

  • http://www.facebook.com/TheCookandButler Shivie Cook

    What strikes me is the comments that this led to. To me, FB is like the tv if you don;t like it you don’t have to read it, delete them and keep the ones you like.

    If you find FB annoying STOP logging on, delete your account and find a different forum.

    And as for bragging, tell it how it is, if you are in business share your triumphs and challenges, let people see you as real and they will gravitate toward you, and again if this annoys why are you on FB in the first place!

  • TinaWrites

    Maybe Ms. Bernstein is most particularly bothered by the competitiveness in a lot of the comments, especially when the speaker or writer is very good at covering up the competitiveness even to the point of sounding simply nice and factually accurate?  Just guessing.

  • http://www.facebook.com/bradbarfield Brad Barfield

    Personally, I do not think so. Why? What is wrong with posting positive moments in life? I would much rather read about positive moments. If I want a bunch of negativity in my life, I would simply just go purchase satellite or cable services and listen to polarized pundits go on with the gloom and doom. Forget-a-bout-it.

  • Regular_Listener

    Interesting discussion, and these thoughts have crossed my mind too.  It can get pretty tedious on FB to just see everybody’s triumphs, best photos, cheery observations, et cetera, and it does make me wonder to what degree are people bragging and covering up?  I think I am a little more at peace with it then Miss Bernstein because I have come to see the internet as a place where some people express their real selves but where the majority of people promote/market themselves.  There are very real dangers attached to being negative or hostile or providing too much information online!  And not everyone is only putting their best feet forward.  One friend of mine has been detailing her battle with cancer with regular FB posts.

  • ExcellentNews

    Oh, now I get all these posts. Here is my update. Unfortunately, I do not have a promotion to announce, since my company was acquired by a hedge fund and is moving my job overseas (not me though). It’s ok, since I managed to get a temp job at McDonalds and another part-time greeting shoppers at WalMart. BTW, does anybody know what this black pimple on my nose is? I hope it is not too bad, since temps have no health insurance. Anyway, I’m sure all will be well, since I’ve been following the Lord’s will by voting for Romney-Ryan (so they said in church). We really need to save our country from Sharia Law and Socialism!

  • ultramarine73

    Why aren’t you pruning your “Friends” on Facebook to keep the people who are genuine up there?  I love being able to keep up with my cousins Lupus treatments, my friends daughter’s first day of school, to give some good cheer to a distant aunt who had heart surgery.

    The problem isn’t Facebook.  It’s your friends people!

  • NotBraggin

    It’s all in how we choose to ride this Pale Blue Dot.

    If Ms. Bernstein thinks posting on fb is narcissistic, then why is there a “like” button next to the title of her article? Oh, look! We can share her article on facebook, too. I better not or that’d be considered bragging about the fact that I listen to NPR and read the WSJ.

  • NotBraggin

    Interesting how there’s a facebook link and a “like” button next to Ms. Bernstein’s article. So, she thinks that facebook posts are bragging,
    narcissistic. After listening to this show, I announced to my fb friends that THAT MY LIFE ISN’T ALL FRIGGIN SUNSHINE AND
    BUTTERFLIES. Yes, I keep some of my blue days to myself —
    many blue days to myself. Kudos to those fb friends who have the guts to
    share the bad times more than I do. But know that I get goosebumps when I
    read about what their kids or grandkids said or did. And the photos. Precious!

    And lately, more and more fb friends have been diagnosed with cancer. I am SO moved, SO SO moved when they HAVE THE ENERGY to check into fb to let us know how surgery went or
    chemo is going. The anniversary of my dad’s passing is approaching. I still remember the love and support I received on and off
    facebook. It all meant so much to me. And there’s record of that on fb when I
    feel I need to go back and reminisce. 

    We all choose how and with whom to ride this Pale Blue Dot. Ms. Bernstein, maybe you can just choose to ride the Dot without fb. That’s just fine.

  • MTLMTL

    I thought this might make for an interesting show, and thought that I would probably agree with everything the guest had to say. But then when listening to the program I felt like she hadn’t really thought about the topic for longer than a few minutes and didn’t even know her own opinions on the matter.  I had to stop listening after 10 minutes. I do think there is a culture of bragging and that social media platforms have a great influence on our culture and social interactions, mostly for the worse in my opinion. But I just don’t think the show did this topic justice.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/PCSB4WMWD7ZXBBIPFTOQ6YIV2Y Kelinde Ricketts

    I think facebook has taken on that form that you need to express the good in your life to others. What stranger gets on facebook and admits that they are depressed, people want to look good in the eyes of others, and even if not for others if it makes the person feel better about themselves why not post it ? it was stated before dont like dont read 

    • Vgilbert3

      I agree Kelinde. Sometimes people do want to look good in the eyes of others ( Living like the Jones). What we may think is important may not be to others.

  • nlovett1

    I totally agree with idea that having a social media website as a necessity in today’s society. It has become the easiest was of communication and even a quick “look up” for future prospects
    Nicole Lovett-

  • jayy duncan

    Social sites has taken over the way we communicate with the world.  People are more open to express there feeling to other or their peers rather than family.  Facebook and Twitter gives them this opportunity to do so.  

  • jayy duncan

    Social sites has taken over the way we communicate with the world.  People are more open to express there feeling to other or their peers rather than family.  Facebook and Twitter gives them this opportunity to do so.  

  • Vgilbert3

    Social networks are used for updates of what you are doing in life. People thoughts are just their thoughts. I wouldn’t consider it bragging. When you add them on Facebook or follow them on twitter it means you want updates from them no matter how silly they may be. If you don’t like what someone posts or feel as if they are bragging and you don’t want to see it you can unfollow or unfriend. I love that we have social media websites that keep us in touch with each other and let us know what people are up to.

  • Orit Towfik

    the whole point of social networks is to tell people what you’re doing and if people decide to follow you or be your friend on Facebook then they’re obviously interested in what you have to say. Updating a status or tweeting about your actions doesnt necessarily mean you’re bragging and honestly i never really look at it that way either. Some may feel a status or tweet may be bragging but it could be something that they’ve accomplished or feel happy about. Not everyone is a bragger.if you feel like someone is a bragger you have every right to unfollow or delete them off your Facebook to not see it. To me its all news. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1262130856 Faridah Koledoye

    I believe it all depends on the context and the mind set of the person reading the post. Everyone thinks differently so everyone will see things differently. For example, if I tweet, ” I got an A+ on my english homework :)”, my best friend and close friends would probably be pleased and congratulate me. Someone who does not like me may se it as bragging. I think many factors are to be considered before judging or deeming a post as bragging. – FKOLEDOYE1

  • http://twitter.com/BriancaByrd Brianca Byrd

    I do understand the concept of “Braggarts”, and I do agree to a certain extent. I feel as if it is a matter of how the user of that social networking site feels. Communication is a huge part of life but using social networking sites to do so isn’t always “bragging”. Twitter is a way to communicate with whats going on with your life, worldwide, and in general. There are some morals and rules you should live by online, as well as in life. I feel like that’s where some people go wrong, bragging comes from people sharing negative things and violating those rules that people should live by. Its all a matter of personal opinion, and the biggest thing about this topic is that YOU HAVE THE CHOICE TO IGNORE IT.

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  • http://twitter.com/gowebsolutions Go Web Solutions

    That’s an interesting concept, and a seemingly new one.  While it may or may not be true, the ultimate question may be, does it affect anything if it’s true?

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Russian President Vladimir Putin heads the Cabinet meeting in the Novo-Ogaryovo residence, outside Moscow, Russia, Wednesday, July 30, 2014.  (AP)

The US and Europe face off against Russia. Are we looking at Cold War II? Something hotter?

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Criticism, Conservatism And Dinesh D’Souza
Thursday, Jul 31, 2014

Best-selling conservative author and filmmaker Dinesh D’Souza and On Point host Tom Ashbrook disagree about what makes America great…or do they?

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This 15-Year-Old Caller Is Really Disappointed With Congress
Tuesday, Jul 29, 2014

In which a 15-year-old caller from Nashville expertly and elegantly analyzes our bickering, mostly ineffective 113th Congress.

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Our Week In The Web: July 25, 2014
Friday, Jul 25, 2014

Why the key to web victory is often taking a break and looking around, and more pie for your viewing (not eating) pleasure.

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