American Marriage


Comedian Sandra Tsing Loh is quite serious about being through with marriage. At 47, she’s recently had an affair. She’s getting divorced. And she’s decided marriage isn’t working for women her age.

It’s all work. No passion. She’s done.

Her friend, essayist and social critic Caitlin Flanagan, is going just the other way. In a time when politicians right and left have been stepping out on their wives, Flanagan is stepping up for marriage. Saying it’s vital. For life. Long term.

This hour, On Point: Two old friends – women – argue two very different views of American marriage.

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Sandra Tsing Loh is a writer, comedian, and a columnist for The Atlantic. Her books include “Mother on Fire” (2008) and “If You Lived Here, You’d be Home by Now” (1998). Her most recent article, “Let’s Call the Whole Thing Off,” appears in the most recent issue of The Atlantic.

Caitlin Flanagan is an essayist and social critic, and a contributor at The Atlantic and a regular writer for Time magazine. Her most recent book is called “To Hell with All That: Loving and Loathing our Inner Housewife” (2006). She wrote the cover story, “Is There Hope for the American Marriage?” for the July 2 issue of TIME.

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